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17 Couples That Abstained from Sex Until Marriage Share Their Stories

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We waited till marriage with good indicators of compatability, which disappeared once we had intercourse. Now we have sex every other month and she’s completely disinterested in fixing it.

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I was not a virgin – I was date raped, and then had sex with my next two boyfriends Looking back, it was an attempt, on my part, to regain control over my sexuality. When I met my now-husband, I suddenly didn’t want to pursue anybody else. It took us a year to start dating. The night we became a couple – the night we first kissed – the first words he said to me after kissing me were, “I’m waiting until I get married to have sex.” It was sort of out of left field, but mostly it was adorable. We dated for a year and a half before getting engaged. We were engaged for seven months before getting married. We got to know each other sexually in all ways except for penis-in-my-body-sex. On our wedding night, my virgin husband did a SPECTACULAR job. And because we were familiar with each others’ bodies, there was a lot less pressure. We had sex 3 times that first night. We had sex 32 times over the next 7 days. We’ve been married for 7 years.

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My wife was a virgin before we were married. I was not. I had been in several relationships (long and short term) before where sex was very important. I was an agnostic who became a Christian right about the time that we started dating. My wife had been one for a few years. I wasn’t super hung-up on not having penetrative sex before marriage, but she was adamant about it. I figured that lots of sex hadn’t helped my previous relationships work out, so I thought I’d give it a shot. I told her that we wouldn’t have sex until she was ready, and if that meant when we were married, that was okay. We dated for over 3 years while we finished college and never had penetrative sex, although we did get each other off occasionally in other way. The night of our wedding, she was ready to go as soon as we got to the hotel room. Now, we definitely had a period of time where there was a learning curve as she figured out the logistics and angles, but it was never awkward. She felt that a healthy sex life is very important to a healthy marriage. I don’t have any regrets about our decision.

Written by Irvi Torremoro

Irvi Torremoro is an Austinite by way of Las Vegas. She's worked in various outlets in food & beverage and is now focused on writing, eating all the things, talking about Beyonce, and petting all the puppies. She runs flavorandbounty.com, a lifestyle blog about people in the service industry.