17 Extroverts Share Their Secrets to Making Small Talk

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You’re invited to a dinner party where you only know the host. You’ve already RSVP’d and you don’t want to bail, so you end up going and realize that there’s place cards. The seating arrangements have you the furthest away from the only person that you know. Well, f*cking great, right?

Your social anxiety is starting to go through the rough and you panic thinking that you need to say hello to the people around you. All the thoughts start going through your head: Will they like me? What do I talk about it with these people? Will they feel me out and think I’m a weirdo? Will we have anything in common?

We’ve all been there, don’t worry. Even extroverts have been there, I’m sure. Introverts have a harder time trying to come out of their shell, yes, but how else are you going to get comfortable with talking to new people if you don’t try to chat? Extroverts have some secrets that can help introverts out when it comes to small talk.

These extroverts share their secrets to the art of small talk:


1.

The secret is no one gives a sh*t. When you are gone in 10 minutes they will love you or have forgotten you. Have fun with the moment. Stop worrying.

2.

I go with the “never met a stranger” approach. I talk to everyone like I’ve known them for years.

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Ask questions, listen to the answers, ask more questions. People love to talk about themselves.

4.

Be informed. have something to talk about (no politics or anything) you’d be surprised how far asking someone if they heard about some positive news story can go, breaking the ice is the hard part, convos typically flow freely after that

Written by Irvi Torremoro

Irvi Torremoro is an Austinite by way of Las Vegas. She's worked in various outlets in food & beverage and is now focused on writing, eating all the things, talking about Beyonce, and petting all the puppies. She runs flavorandbounty.com, a lifestyle blog about people in the service industry.