Can we all collectively agree that the Fifty Shades of Grey series is some of the worst writing that has made it onto the New York Times Bestseller list? So, now that we’ve got that out of the way, we can also agree that Fifty Shades did bring BDSM somewhat into the mainstream. Back in the day, all of that was really taboo and it was embarrassing to even think of bringing it up in conversation.
Well, it’s out in the open nowadays, thanks to internet and the newer generation being very open and honest about sexuality. So, you can’t tell me that you haven’t thought about a little choke here and there or being tied up in bed by your partner to spice it up in the bedroom.
Look, exploring one’s sexuality is healthy and if BDSM is something you want to look into, then more power to you.The realization that it may be your thing is the first step into a new sexual journey, so don’t be embarrassed if that’s your thing. A little hog tie or spanking by you partner won’t hurt anyone. Just make sure that you have a safe word, of course.
These 19 people admit when they realized they’re into BDSM:
1.
I was watching Wonder Woman as a little girl, and there was an episode where the bad guy took her power accessories away from her and tied her up. Wonder Woman was totally helpless! And it was so hot. I must have been around 5 or 6. Ever since, I’ve had a huge hard wired kink for being tied up or otherwise restrained and overpowered.
2.
When I was 18, I was sleeping with a guy in his early thirties. One night, he brought out two pairs of handcuffs….one for the right wrist and ankle, and one for the left, and handcuffed me so I was almost in a reverse hog tie / I was spread eagle. It was so hot. A few months later, I happened to become friends with some poly and BDSM people, and it took off from there.
3.
Even as a kid, before i knew what sexuality was i liked doing certain things such as lie shirtless on a cold floor, those things gave me a weird feeling of satisfaction even though they didn’t exactly feel good physically. I also liked playing with my friends and pretend to be a pet, or playing some kind of a submissive role but without it being sexual. As a teenager i learned about BDSM through online blogs and porn but all my experiences with it were through cyber sex. I knew i was a sub since i was about 11 or 12.
4.
My 20 yo self had been hooking up with an older Portuguese woman for a couple of weeks already. One night she asked me to tie her to the headboard and hold a pocket knife to her throat while I fucked her. I remember thinking she was crazy, but why the hell not? So we gave it a try… afterwards we talked it over, and she started introducing me to all the sweet sweet pleasures (and pains) of the scene – appropriately slowly this time.
Irvi Torremoro is an Austinite by way of Las Vegas. She's worked in various outlets in food & beverage and is now focused on writing, eating all the things, talking about Beyonce, and petting all the puppies. She runs flavorandbounty.com, a lifestyle blog about people in the service industry.
