19 People Describe What It’s Like To Have Sex With Someone That Is Transitioning

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MTF here, plus I have a MTF partner. Neither of us have had surgery, though both of us experience significant dysphoria about our genitals. Money is the most significant hurdle to getting an orchiectomy or vaginoplasty. Sex is difficult. We both are extra sensitive to each other’s needs; we have sex drives and enjoy the pleasure of the penis being stimulated while simultaneously getting sort of grossed out with our own body. Recently she was stimulating me, and I started crying, so sex stopped and she comforted me in my dysphoria. We talk a LOT about the dysphoria and any frustration we have. Sex seems to work best as a tender, sensual affair with lots of nipple stimulation.

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I am a cis woman, married to a mtf woman. I had never dated a trans person prior to her. I knew she was trans because she stated so in her dating profile. I did have to admit I had no idea how to work with a penis, but we are both very open sexually, so we were able to talk through it in a fluid manner. The sex was great. Standard p in v stuff, oral (both ways). Though she needed a lot of stimulation to orgasm, & it didn’t always happen. She ended up getting her SRS (Satterwhite) about two years into our relationship, after we got engaged. The results look good, & she is fully orgasmic.

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Went from a okcupid date to hook up, & we saw each other a couple times. I actually didn’t know til after. A friend of mine went to high school with her when she still had a dick. She only went part of Freshman year then was home schooled. Usually the voice is a red flag in videos but hers sounded feminine. She was only 20 so must have had it done early or started hormones early. I didn’t see her again, she was a bit of a nutcase & clingy. Sex was good though. I already had decided not to meet up with her anymore before I found out about the sex change. I probably would have still hooked up with her if she told me but felt not telling me was uncool so just reaffirmed not talking to her anymore.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.