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19 People Describe What It’s Like To Have Sex With Someone That Is Transitioning

17.

I’ve been seeing a guy (FTM) for over a year now. I am a bi guy (CIS). He very much looks and smells like a guy. Very muscular as well. So sex wise for me, everything has been better. I have never been with a woman with such vaginal strength. Would be scary if it wasn’t such an awesome feeling. His natural lube does seem to be different. The same, but with a little more stickiness, then the few women I’ve had un-condomed sex with. Not that I’ve had enough to know how they all are. I like to think the sex has been great because we are clicking well, not because of our genders. Kissing has been the biggest deal. I just love holding him and kissing him.

18.

I feel like our sex is far closer to gay sex & is fundamentally different in practice than the sex with all of my previous female partners. Oral sex is easier due to his clit being closer to a small penis. Even during vaginal intercourse, it feels much more like topping a guy, hair/stubble rub against me, his low moans are in a stark contrast to the female tone. We have mostly vaginal sex, but it feels more like sleeping with a guy, like with a good bro. There are only subtleties of his previous identity. Otherwise he is rather masculine, slightly timid face, normal proportions for his shorter stature, most of the time he wears briefs & binds.

19.

Bisexual man here, I’ve dated/had sex with two pre-op transmen on T, one who started hormones while we were dating. The clits engorge considerably, and are a ton of fun to play with, closer to a blowjob than cunnilingus. Testosterone seems to interfere with vaginal wetness, so lube is important if he’s interested in that, and seemed to make him interested in sex more frequently but for a shorter session.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.