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These People Don’t Have A Problem Taking Back A Cheater

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In a perfect world, we’d all put on our favorite Carrie Underwood cowboy boots and take a Louisville slugger to both headlights before he cheats, but in the real (more sh*tty world) — dealing with cheaters isn’t so cut and dry. And usually, we find out that bae has stuck their junk in and around someone else’s junk after the fact. So what’s a b*tch to do?

If we’re being like our @badgalriri, we’d drop that motherf*cker quicker than a two pump chump. But what if the circumstances don’t allow for such a black and white departure? It sucks, but sometimes we inevitably take back a cheater after they’ve wronged us. Maybe we try and work it out for the kids. Or maybe it was just a “one time thing” and they grovel and beg for us to take them back and we do because we can’t bring ourselves to cut off a seven year relationship.

Whatever the case, taking back a cheater teaches us some valuable lessons like trust and open communication. It also teaches us that people f*cking suck. They say “once a cheater, always a cheater” — and according to these accounts of strangers on the internet, that’s mostly the case. And if you meet your significant other and hook up while they’re still involved with another bae, chances are — they’ll end up cheating on you because duh. YOU SHOULD HAVE SEEN IT COMING!

These dumb people took back a cheater and the results were devastating:


1.

We were married less than a year. It was the hardest year of my life. He went to watch a sporting event with his friends and didn’t come back that night. He called me in the morning and told me what happened. Lots of counseling, lots of fighting, and we are still married 20 years and 2 kids later. I think since he told me right away and didn’t try to hide it made it easier.

2.

Forgave her. 6-8 months later she was pregnant. I found out it wasn’t mine. Dodged a bullet.

3.

Was in a eight-year relationship with my wife. We had been married for two years when she came back from a therapy session, shaking, and admitted to having a one-night stand with a coworker. We spent a whole year in marriage counseling, but at some point she decided she wasn’t going to try anymore. She kept staying out later and later with this guy, and at some point, they started sleeping with each other. I didn’t know this for a while, and figured we should just give each other space. So I moved into an apartment for a month, completely miserable. When I returned, she seemed to have a skip in her step about it all. I pretty much decided that we should take a break, which to her meant she got to sleep with this guy more often. So, I ended up moving back in with my parents at the age of 26 “for a short while,” still fully believing that we could somehow repair the relationship. A month after I had left, she calls me and says she’s pregnant with the guy’s kid. I was fuming, and as a sign of how far gone she was, she didn’t understand and thought I’d be happy for her.

4.

I forgave because prior to his cheating, I had been going through a really rough time with my mental health and knew I had not been an easy partner to be with for several months. It was an excuse to stay for sure, but in a way I understood how it happened because he started talking to her ABOUT me and it progressed from there. When I discovered it, he did everything I asked without hesitation and after a few months, things actually did get better. I didn’t fully trust him again for a couple of years. What finally regained trust was when I had an unexpected injury and surgery and he was 100% there for me through the whole painful process and picked up the slack without complaint when I couldn’t work for a couple of months because of it. Things were good again for a few years. I left him in August after I discovered he was cheating for the second time. I’m much happier now.

5.

Not me but there’s a girl I follow on Facebook just to watch the trashiness. Her bf cheated on her, she forgave him, got pregnant by him, they married, baby was born, then husband cheated on her again less than a year after marriage with the same person as before. Now she keeps posting Harley Quinn memes about beating him up with a baseball bat.

Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.