In a perfect world, having a friends with bennies situation would mean bumping uglies with your chill (hot) friend while laughing about years-old inside jokes and having countless orgasms without catching any sort of feelings whatsoever because you’re an emotionally stunted person with a whole bunch of daddy issues. Yes, even daddy issues permeate their way into a perfect world. I mean, unattached sex with someone is doable, but when you’re trying to boink AND keep any sort of feelings at bay — sh*t can get pretty messy, pretty quick.
Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis (per the first 75 minutes-ish of their dilapidated rom-com) would tell you that it can definitely be done, but let’s be real — you know they’re falling in love and even the most moronic idiot in the world can see that f*cking your friend can only lead to two possible outcomes: love and happiness or an ex-friendship with a lot of rosé and Hot Pockets to drown your sorrows.
But are those really the only two ways out of a friends with benefits situation? According to the good ole World Wide Web — not necessarily. Sure, most FWB relationships come to a screeching halt for more than one reason, but some, as it turns out, can actually work if two people are equally open (and equally horny/dead inside). So, whether it’s a good idea or not, I say — GO ON WITH YOUR BAD SELF AND F*CK YOUR FRIEND THAT YOU’VE ALWAYS THOUGHT LOOKED GOOD IN THOSE JEANS! #YOLO
These people got more than they bargained for when hooking up with their friend:
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With mine, it’s been a bit of a rollercoaster. We weren’t that close friends initially and started off just having sex, but we ended up going through so much together and liking each other so much that we became best friends. Inevitably things got complicated. He was very clear at the start that it was just a casual thing, until one day he suddenly said we had to stop having sex because he was getting too attached to me, which was a shock. I ended up falling hard for him, and things have been off and on ever since. There’s probably been over 10 times where one of us has said we should stop having sex, but it only ever lasts a week or two until we fall back into it. It’s hard because I love him so much and I know I should stop because it fucks with my head, but we’re so close that I see him all the time. Plus, sex with him is so so good that it has basically turned into an addiction.
2.
Ruined the friendship. She fell for me. I realized this. I decided to end it. Invited her to my room. She said had something she needed to tell me. She said she’s in love with me. I said don’t do that. I start to break up with her. Best friend next door starts ramming his girlfriend at exact moment. Cue me cuddling heartbroken girl whilst listening to hardcore pummeling next door. Was. Awful.
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I’ve had a few and usually once one of us decides that we shouldn’t be physical anymore, the friendship kind of died. None of them ended poorly really, it just gets kind of weird when you go from having sex multiple times every time you hang out, to trying to grab lunch or something. To be fair though, all of my “friends with benefits” pretty much started off as fuck buddies that became friends later, so sex was kind of the foundation of the “friendship.”
4.
Dick game too strong. She caught feelings. I wasn’t havin’ it. Mutually agreed to drop communication. I miss her.
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Many years back I knew a girl who I was good friends with, she was a little short and very tomboyish so had problems finding a man. She wasn’t ugly but rather acted like one of the lads, one night we were both drunk and we hooked up for sex, after that we decided to just fuck each other when we were horny, it was a good thing, we both had great sex and could share interests. We still are friends, but now are both in relationships.
Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.
