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Scandalous Confessions From People Who’ve Had Friends With Benefits

6.

I met a girl through Tinder and we started casually sleeping together. We’d occasionally go out, but it wasn’t really dating. More like becoming friends with someone you just happen to sometimes see naked. Everything seemed cool, we had similar interests, great sexual chemistry, neither of us were looking for a commitment, but one night I woke up to find her gone along with my laptop. I never saw her again. Or my laptop.

7.

In college, I had a friends with benefits situation with a girl who lived on my dorm floor. I thought we were on the same page with everything, but then when I met someone else (who later became my girlfriend), she flipped out. She threw her drink at me at a party and wouldn’t stop screaming about what a huge asshole I am. It was embarrassing for both of us.

8.

I got drunk with one of my guy friends and we ended up hooking up. It was a little weird the next morning, but we both agreed we didn’t want to pursue anything. There were zero romantic feelings there, but get a drink or two in us and we would be pawing at each other. We decided we’d just lean into it and try out the whole friends with benefits thing. We hooked up off and on for months and there never seemed to be any problems. Apparently he’d fallen in love with me during that time frame but never, ever told me. I found out from a mutual friend. I finally brought it up to him because I didn’t want to hurt him or be in something that was going to cause him pain and he confessed his, like, eternal undying love. I didn’t reciprocate. He was crushed. I felt terrible. Our friendship was ruined. It was just all so bad.

9.

Well, I got pregnant.

Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.