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Virgins Were Shocked To Find Out These 21 Things The First Time They Had Sex

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Female here. When I first had condomless sex I was really surprised by how much semen came back out of me when I got up to go to the bathroom. I remember thinking, “Shit. Is this normal? That’s…a lot. No one told me about this.”

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That it’s not all the same between partners. I honestly thought that as long as the equipment was there, it was just kind of this benign process that would have the same results every time. My first 2 sexual partners were pretty bad, and I had no idea that sex could even be enjoyable until my 3rd partner (out of 4). It made me feel really bad about people who only have 1 unsatisfying sexual partner who might not know that what they’re experiencing doesn’t have to be “the norm.”

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That I would have a problem finishing. Got to the point where I just wouldn’t get off due to the girl getting impatient, bored, or in pain. I took this mentality into my other relationships and they often ended negatively due to this.

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How it would feel good DURING it. I only felt the 2 seconds of heaven at the end of my jerk off sessions but the soft and wet feel of flesh around my shaft for the first time made me go “Ooohhhh I get why people do this now!”

Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.