We all have different sex drives. There are contributing factors, such as medications, age, and stress, so some people have much lower sex drives than others. Even if you’re up one day, you could be down the next. Sometimes, you never know!
But what do you do if you’re in a relationship with someone with a different sex drive than you? You want to bang AWL DAY SON, and they’re just like “eh, I’m not into it.” LIKE UGHHHH PLEASE JUST HAVE THE SEX WITH ME!!!!
So, how do you cope? How do you figure out how to make both parties happy? Well, these couples have some solutions for you, and many of them have gotten past their major sex drive differences. So take a cue from these peeps, and take your humping with a side of compromise.
These couples confess what it’s like to be with someone with an opposite sex drive:
1.
Wife and I solved this by getting into S & M. She sleeps and I masturbate.
2.
I love my wife, and her libido is not nearly as high as mine. She’s willing to “suck it up” and have sex or give blowjobs when she’s not in the mood, but I feel really selfish when she does that (even though she insists I shouldn’t). So, I masturbate. I honestly don’t understand why it’s that big a deal.
3.
I generally have a much higher sex drive than my husband because by the time he gets back from work he’s just too tired for it. Originally what we did was he would get me off when I was horny instead of having sex but I felt like it was too clinical almost and I started finding it difficult to orgasm. What I really wanted was the closeness and intimacy that comes from having sex. So in the end we ended up settling on me waiting til the weekend to have sex, but that he’d put extra effort in on the days where he wasn’t as tired. It works for us! I’d love to have more sex but I do get a ton of cuddles in the evening which makes up for it.
4.
I am always up for it, he is not. I just have sex when he wants to. He has however showed me the magical world of masturbation and has bought me several wonderful machines who will do the job when he’s unable. It’s pretty neat.
Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.
