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I’ve been cheated on in the past and always immediately broke things off immediately. With my husband, he cheated very early on, but there was something about him I couldn’t let go. It has been I years, and I trust him completely, and we couldn’t be happier. We’re married now, and have a daughter together. I believe people can change their ways, if they really want to.
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Because when I wake up I roll over and see him, I smile. Because he’s better than any coffee you could give me. Waking up and finding them took, but him describing the scream was worse.
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I stayed with him cause I have no actual friends. Just ppl im friendly with like coworkers, etc. I would have been completely lonely without him. His world has fused with mine so much, Im afraid of starting from scratch.
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We were best friends. We were together for 15 years, married for 14 years. It wasn’t a quick mistake on his part, he cheated for 2 years and even when I left him he asked her to marry him. Not having me in his life made him come back after 4 months and I took him for fear of being alone. We both went to couples counseling revealing what the issues were and spend each day working on them. The counselor did say it may take years to build up 80% trust or even 90% but 100% may never happen. He accepted that and works on being a better husband, I also accepted my role on why he did it and work on being a better wife. Our issues were not malicious, it was complacency. Relationships are constant but not guaranteed, we now talk to each other, I simply tell him that I don’t believe he is out with his friends and we talk about it. I don’t insist on seeing his stuff but he shows it anyway. I don’t think that is healthy for us, so I told him to stop showing it, just talk and air the issues. It has been working for us, I feel like I am getting my best friend back and this is a daily struggle for me. But for me he is worth it. I’m not going to lie and say I’m strong and emotionally healthy, some days I feel like a duped woman, feel humiliated and weak. We go counseling or we talk about it. For us communication is making us stronger.
This is coming from a woman who would always say once a cheater always a cheater.
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My husband cheated before we were engaged or married, during the first year of our relationship. He is now my husband, as I said before, so we obviously stayed together. I can’t give any specific reason as to “why,” but that it just felt like we needed to keep trying. It’s taken a lot to get us to a healthy place in our relationship, including counseling and complete transparency in our phones and social media lives, but we’ve gotten there. I can’t say I necessarily completely trust him now, but every day it gets a little better and a little easier. When I am feeling suspicious or like I don’t trust him, he immediately turns over whatever it is that is stressing me out (the phone, his email, etc.) and let’s me look through what I need to. I understand that’s not the healthiest long term habit, and it’s gotten less and less throughout the last couple years, but it helps us. Our therapist said it would take years for me to completely regain trust, and we’re about 4 years from the last incident at this point, and I’m slowly getting there. My husband had to understand that it would take me years, and that sometimes I become suspicious, or unreasonable, or upset and he needs to cope with that, which he has done.
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My boyfriend and I had been on and off for 5 years y’all! We always found our way back to eachother and never cheated or hooked up with anyone else. Long story short we ended up getting pregnant and I think it was in my 2nd trimester I found out he was fooling around with a coworker. I found out on his Snapchat!! Like how dumb are you that you get caught on there? Anyways I have always had a strong stance against cheating, like its over. But when it actually happened it was terrifying! Here we are about to start a family and instead of coming to me as a man and saying hey I don’t want to be with you, he decided the best way was to cheat. Honestly, in the moment I felt scared, unwanted, and very very mad. But I stuck it out with him. And we actually just recently talked about this situation and I let him know that just because I took him back doesn’t make me weak or stupid. And things would be very different if I didn’t love him the way I did and obviously for our family. It hurts a lot, the trust and our relationship is a work in progress but we’re good. And I’m happy with my decision to stay with him.
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My boyfriend cheated the first year we were together. He moved to another city for college and I followed him up a year later. During that year he lived by himself, he slept with a coworker. I actually didn’t find out until 1 year later when one if his friends let it slip. I confronted him that night and I was broken of course because I moved away from my family to be with him and he betrayed me in the worst way. We sat down and talked it all out. He explained himself and I knew it was a mistake and it broke him like it broke me. So I told him we would stay together but I wouldn’t trust him that easily. Now, 8 years later, we’re still together. He fought for my trust and he earned it. We matured from that and grew closer from there. I never throw it in his face when we argue nor do I bring it up anymore to attack him. I don’t regret forgiving him because he made me fall in love with him all over again with a clean slate.
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Because it was a mistake, and I truly believe as humans we must be allowed to make a mistake and find out why it happened. My boyfriend cheated on me after a year because we were young high schoolers who were experiencing our youth very differently. Its no excuse for him at all – but he loved me while knowing I didnt fit into his life. It took us years upon years to work through that one incident, and it is by far the hardest thing I have experienced.
However, we persisted. I told him so many times to walk away if he didnt love me and vice versa but love was never the issue. We have always been in love and cared for each other as humans, meaning we accept our flaws and try to help each other work through them. Support and trust is the only thing we know. We have always agreed to walk away if it no longer makes us happy. Well, we’ve been together for 9 years, married for 2, and just recently found out we’re expecting our first child together!
Im not saying it’s going to be that way for everyone, but it worked out for me. And I am happy we had an understanding and unconditional love that in the end made us stronger than ever.
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I stayed because I love him and learn to forgive him. I would go into it but oh sweet Jesus I don’t have time for it’s a twisted werid Soap opera. I mean that what it was it wasn’t him sleeping with another it was full on General Hospital, The Bold and The Beautiful Love Triangle, I mean my cheating story could have been a freaking a stoyline but I won. I got my guy in the end and we being doing great sense.
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I found out my boyfriend cheated on me for about six months before I found out, last year. It really took me to a dark place. I felt the usual. That it was my fault, I wasn’t good enough and all the bad crap. When I finally confronted him about it, he denied it even though I had the actual proof right in front of his face. My boyfriend is in a wheelchair… and at the time, I felt like all he had wanted me to stick around for was to clean after him and be his maid/nurse. I didn’t feel appropriated one bit. I wanted to work it out for about a month, so we could figure things out before our lease was up. He didn’t care. He expected me to still give him a birthday gift when all this was going on, but instead I decided to fly back home for a week to see my parents. Since at the time we weren’t together, I went to see my ex while I was home to see if being intimate with him made me feel anything. It didn’t. Then I got back to my shitty life and my bf wanted to actually try stuff. I was intimate with him the first night I was home and afterwards I realized I was too numb from all the pain he’d caused me I didn’t feel anything for him during that time. I tried to rebound with another guy, but it was still too early I think. A lot of other things happened, but since then he’s shown me he’s changed and he’s actually tried. Only time will tell if it will stay this way.