When it comes to cheating, for some reason people always believe that the person who gets cheated on is the only one who will feel pain and suffering. While getting cheated on is no easy thing to overcome, the person who cheats also lives a life full of sorrow and regret. Now, I’m not here saying that the person who cheats deserves sympathy–that’s a conscious decision that they made. What I am saying is that the person who cheats, they feel the pain that we feel and they feel remorse when they see us devastated and hurt.
Recently, a Facebook post has been making rounds on social media with over 200,000 shares and comments. The photos tell a story of a man who cheated on his wife, and the painful way he finally revealed what had happened.
While inevitably the man in this situation scarred his wife for life–he also went through pain and suffering after realizing how much he had ruined what they had. He was in the wrong, no doubt, but he is not invincible to emotional distraught, guilt, and anger at himself for what he had done.
Yes, he made a conscious decision to cheat, but after coming clean, he thought he would have to live with the demon of losing his wife and family. Instead, he watched the woman who loves him attempt to rebuild trust with him, try to make herself “good enough” so that he wouldn’t stray again. Think about what kind of emotions have to run through your body when hearing that someone who did nothing wrong feels as though it was partly their fault because they weren’t “good enough” for you. That has to be the worst kind of guilt one can feel. And, while he may well deserve all of that guilt for what he has done, it will still emotionally destroy him in the end.
Fellas (and ladies), please remember–if you feel as though you want to cheat on someone because you are no longer emotionally or physically invested in the relationship, leave before you cheat. It’s better to be honest with someone and upfront, rather than destroy their trust in relationships forever.