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15 People That Suffer From Anorgasmia

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We are both 25, and she has never been able to have an orgasm despite having a couple long-term relationships, and not even auto-orgasm. It is fairly early into the relationship. Sex is off the radar and while she says she enjoyed it with her exes, I can tell it is not important to her. Also she does not have the same distractions that the rest of us deal with dozens of times a day and I think she sees the world and relationships in a completely different way than the average person.

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As someone who dated a girl for two years & never had an orgasm with her, I’d say it might wear on you after a while. At first we had hot sex, she was into pleasing me, & everything seemed great. After a few months the intensity went down, until it seemed like we never had sex. She had been with several guys before and had had sex hundreds if not thousands of times in her life, but said she had only orgasmed one time, and didn’t really describe it as, well, orgasmic. I think she lost interest in sex with me because she knew that she wasn’t going to get off, so why get in the mood? Maybe she was being selfish, but I think that had to be part of it. It bothered me a lot, & more as time went on.

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My wife has never had a clitoral orgasm. If the stars align and she is the right level of relaxed (not too relaxed or borderline sleep) and in the right mood, AND uses the right tool she can get close but can’t let go. This has always been true from puberty onward. She claims to have had piv orgasms but again it is rare.. Maybe if I had the right amount of rum. Mental is huge part of it from my “research”. It helps to take some of the pressure off both of us.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.