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25 Things More Girls Need To Start Doing In Bed

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FEEDBACK! Let me know if what I’m doing is working. Not everything is going to work. I’d much rather you tell me something isn’t good, switch to what is good and watch you love it. You turned on turns me on.

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I dated a 55 year old hair dresser briefly. After sex she would go to the restroom to clean up and when she returned she would always bring back a wash cloth, damp with warm water. She would use it to clean me up while giving a light hand job. It was always the perfect temperature and just wet enough to not drip on the bed. Usually she would give it a little kiss on the tip afterwards.

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It would be great if, once in a while, she’d be the one to suggest we go get some nachos before sex. I have to be the one to bring it up every single time. Makes me wonder if she’s even attracted to nachos anymore.

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Be naked – I fancy all of her, I love all of her. I don’t care if she put on a few pounds, she gave me a baby boy and puts up with my shit 24/7. I want to see her naked because I find it attractive, I wish she knew how much. I try to tell her but it’s like bouncing a ball against a wall.

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A good general rule is that if you think you’d enjoy something we did to/for you, we’d most likely enjoy it too. Don’t be afraid to initiate, or explore, or talk dirty, or whatever. That fleeting thought you had that one time but were unsure about, do it! Just go ahead & do it! If your man doesn’t like it he should tell you & you shouldn’t feel bad for trying something new. If your man makes you feel bad about trying something new then he has other issues. Just have fun, let your mind run free & have your body follow. Communication is key, absolutely, but the less you think of sex as restrictions & the more you think of it as free range the more fun you’ll have. It may be weird, it may be funny, it may be bad, & it may be great, but it’s sex & all of that is part of it anyway.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.