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Every Couple Should Try These 25 Things

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Rollerskating. Even though my arse bone has PTSD it was something fun we had never done before. Still smile years later thinking about it.

12.

My husband & I lived in a small town for a while. There wasn’t much to do. One day we went to the weird corner store there that sold random crap. It’s a cross between a grocery store, a dollar store, & a garage sale. One day when we were bored we both went to the shop with the intention of buying each other the weirdest gifts. We each had a 10$ limit and ran around the store like dorks avoiding each other to keep our finds a surprise. When we got home we presented our gifts one at a time… things like a water gun, shells, a car garbage can, ramen noodles, a Roald Dahl novel, a plate, pudding… It was a lot of fun!

13.

Learn to dance! Not only is it good to know for when your friends are getting married, it’s decent exercise and moving in sync with your partner just feel really good. Being able to lead, or be led, with body language and movements instead of words is a skill that takes practice to get down. Plus if you dance something like bachata or tango with your partner it can get really sexually charged, who doesn’t want that?

14.

Spending at least a week apart. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and i don’t know about that, but it can be really eye opening to spend some time apart from your partner. Even if you still communicate regularly while you’re apart, it gives each of you a chance to grow individually. I feel like it really strengthens the relationship.

15.

Try out fetishes. Even small stuff. Ask each other what they fantasize about, what sparks curiosity. Just have fun with it. BDSM has become a huge part of lifestyle and how I form intimacy between partners, and it all started because my partner wanted to tie me up once. It has made us much closer, even in the nonsexual parts of our relationship, increasing our transparency and ability to be vulnerable with each other. Oh, and amazing sex.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.