Scandalous Confessions From People Who’ve Had Friends With Benefits

18.

She was one of my good friend’s ex. She was honestly the best, but definitely ruined my relationship with my friend. We still don’t talk and I never saw her again.

19.

It was long distance. I took a plane to see her. A year later she got on a plane to see me. Lots of feelings. We don’t talk as much as we used to. But I’d still marry her if she asked.

20.

It was more of the benefits without friends part. She still had some attachment issues with an old ex and her lack of enthusiasm (I told her she had the expression of a lobster) killed my drive to please her. Fucking ended in a peaceful way but we no longer speak.

21.

With mine, it’s been a bit of a rollercoaster. We weren’t that close friends initially and started off just having sex, but we ended up going through so much together and liking each other so much that we became best friends. Inevitably things got complicated. He was very clear at the start that it was just a casual thing, until one day he suddenly said we had to stop having sex because he was getting too attached to me, which was a shock. I ended up falling hard for him, and things have been off and on ever since. There’s probably been over 10 times where one of us has said we should stop having sex, but it only ever lasts a week or two until we fall back into it. It’s hard because I love him so much and I know I should stop because it fucks with my head, but we’re so close that I see him all the time. Plus, sex with him is so so good that it has basically turned into an addiction.

Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.