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These 19 People Share the Sweet Side of BDSM

5.

When my sub is tightly bound and we take a break from sex, flogging, or a caning – and I bring her water. Seeing her vulnerable, sometimes covered in bruises or bite marks, with a big smile, just makes the world a better place. Hearing her say “thank you, sir” is just so sweet in this context.

6.

When she hooks her finger in my collar, pulling me close for kisses. Sitting at her feet with my head on her thigh and she’s stroking my hair. When she calls me “baby girl”.

7.

I silently “awww” and tear up every time I see aftercare or checking in. It’s one thing when it’s done with me, but it’s so heartwarming to watch someone tug on three zippers while calling them a wh*re, then check to see if they’re still doing well.

8.

I have a sub that’s brand new… we’re still playing online, and I’m slowly helping her explore her sub side. The other night, while we were having a session, I told her that D/s relationships are based on trust, and that the space we play in is a safe place. She replied with “I’m that important even though all you know is my age, what I look like, and that I’m obedient?” I replied “You’re important because you’re human.” Her response to that made me go “Aww.” She said: “Wow… Thank you. I don’t even know what else to say. People always tell you you’re important for the things you do or the things you know. No one simply says you’re important for existing.”

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Written by Irvi Torremoro

Irvi Torremoro is an Austinite by way of Las Vegas. She's worked in various outlets in food & beverage and is now focused on writing, eating all the things, talking about Beyonce, and petting all the puppies. She runs flavorandbounty.com, a lifestyle blog about people in the service industry.