It takes a lot of sloppy and messy and awkward and sticky maneuvering in figuring out what a new sex partner likes during sex. Like, when’s the right time to mention your affinity for spanking and butt play? The answer is — beforehand! You can’t just wiggle a finger in your boo’s bum hole without asking. That’s just like, the rules of feminism.
You work up to the kinky, rough stuff if — and only if — all parties involved are down. So maybe don’t spit in your girlfriend’s mouth because you saw it in a porn once and thought she would go bananas for it. And don’t assume that your boyfriend likes a little teeth grazing on his member because you’re just one jaw reflex away from having a really nasty tasting hot dog.
Just ease into the weird sh*t, y’all. And when you find that person who loves getting hogtied while you call ’em a bad, bad b*tch — it’ll be worth the wait.
