21 Disturbing Truths About Marriage

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When you think about marriage, especially if you've never been married before, you usually look at it longingly. You can't wait to find that special person you're going to spend the rest of your life with, and imagine a perfect union in which you're in love forever.

Well, that's definitely not always the case. All relationships hit rough patches, and changes throughout the course of time. Sure, many people get through all the trials and tribulations, but sometimes the marriage can't survive all the hardships.

So when approaching marriage, be careful not to unrealistically idealize it. No marriages are perfect, and it's important to know that going in. We all know people that have been divorced, if we haven't already been ourselves. But as long as you're realistic, and willing to work hard when the going gets tough, your marriage will definitely have a fighting chance.

When it comes to the hard truths about marriage, there are 21 that you should drill into your brain. Sure, they might be a little disheartening, but it's better to be prepared and know what to expect than to walk in naively and expect perfection. So when you are ready for marriage, just remember these 21 things, and be willing to work hard in your relationship.

These are 21 of the most disturbing truths about marriage:


Money breaks up most marriages. I've seen marriages that have survived cheating spouses, miscarriages and family drama, but collapsed because the couple could not talk about money.


People rarely realize that it isn't about the good times. Any two idiots can have good times. It's about how well you can handle the bad together as a team. If you're looking to just stomp and whine your way through it then you're pretty weak and fucked.


It is a both a remedy for, and a source of loneliness.


Love is a choice. The special-ness of your spouse isn't a magic, supernatural, pre-destined fairy tale, it's just chemicals in your brain initially and, over time, a conscious effort to partner-up and face life's challenges together.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.