21 People Admit The Moment They Realized They Married The Wrong Person


After getting married, I began to see all the red flags I had been ignoring weren’t going away. Too much unnecessary drama, financial irresponsibility and a cheating heart all hidden by a pretty face. Look for and always acknowledge the red flags.


He wanted kids as much as I did. So, we had kids. Then he just turned out to be a horrible Dad. Ignored them, belittled them, started drinking too much and lashing out. Refused couples therapy. Started to embarrass the kids with his actions. Divorce.


Woke up to him viciously shaking me awake in anger for using his phone charger. On our honeymoon.


When I realized I’d rather die than continue. And that my son needed me alive more than I needed his daddy. And then when I had it pointed out to me that due to my being the sole earner in the house I could easily disentangle myself from him financially – something he’d made me believe I couldn’t do. Pretty certain he has NPD. His truth is very flexible to his environment and audience. He had zero energy for engaging with me and his son and while I worked he farmed my son out to anyone who’d have him and told other women how he was a stay at home dad because he loved that attention. Asshole.

Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.