21 People Admit The Moment They Realized They Married The Wrong Person


When she took her son to Disney world for a family vacation and left me and my son at home to take care of the dog. I told her I was divorcing her the day she got back.


It didn’t take long. I was so young and naive I basically married the person my controlling mother picked out for me. After six months, our sex life was almost non-existent. Seems he could manage a quick episode only after returning from Sunday Mass. I actually believed he was spending hours and hours nightly, jogging, with our fabulously gay neighbor. It was only when I found myself drinking copiously every night that I realized something wasn’t right. So I left, still not quite sure was the problem was. Told you I was naive. He married again, a woman, but is still “besties” with the neighbor, who also married a female.


I got married a year ago and realized she wasn’t the one when she told me in January that she didn’t love me and was in love with our female roommate who was married to a guy in the army. She also stole money and then threw away or stole a good bit of my possessions after kicking me out. They moved in with one another in a different state about a week ago, I moved across the country back in April. I really loved her and trusted her after being cheated on in previous relationships, and her sister did the same thing to her husband and her leaving me for a woman was discussed and ruled out before I committed to the marriage.


Saw the red flags even before marriage–threats of suicide if we break up, haven’t graduated from college, terminated from the first job within 4 months, etc. I thought it would change. It didn’t. Red flags will always be red.

Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.