21 People Admit The Moment They Realized They Married The Wrong Person


These aren’t the things that led to the divorce, but were the things that led to me realizing I made a mistake. She had a child from a prior marriage (that lasted only about a year) and at 21, I hadn’t really fully accepted what it meant to be a father figure to a child I never wanted, and to have her ex husband in her life forever. Then when the child was diagnosed as autistic, it made things that much harder.


When she started hitting me and drawing blood. But had a kid so did not go. Then kid died. Could not go. Had more kids to take away the pain of losing the first kid. Continued to hit me. Had her arrested two times a year apart. Maybe now she understands and she has stopped hitting. Time will tell but I wonder each day what the hell I got myself into (and my kids). Life is fucked up (or I am at least).


He completely changed personalities. Like, 180 degree change into someone I could not recognize him after just TWO WEEKS. When he threw a chair at my head a month after we were married, that’s when I started to plan my escape. A therapist later told me he displayed sever personality disorders ranging into sociopathic. He definitely hid it long enough to marry me and get me to work, pay for bills, clean up after him and take care of the house while he put personal adds on Craigslist to hook up with strangers.


One morning, the baby had woken me up early, and I went outside after I had put him back to sleep. I looked over the horizon and there was an absolutely gorgeous sunrise, so I went back inside and excitedly say to my (awake) husband: “Honey! There’s the most beautiful sunrise out here! Come watch it with me!” to which he replies, “I’ve seen a billion fucking sunrises! Fuck off and let me sleep.”So I quietly got myself a drink, went back out to watch the sunrise by myself, and realized that I had been alone for a long time, and would continue to be alone if I stayed with him. Almost five years later, I finally got the courage to divorce him. I’m still recovering, but I’m no longer with him, so I know it’s going to be okay.

Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.