21 People Confess The Moment They Knew Their SO Wasn’t “The One”


When she got so drunk I had to babysit her to make sure she wouldn’t hurt herself, including pulling her back from leaning too far over our 3rd floor balcony railing, admonishing her for doing a somersault into our TV stand, or clenching her fists so tight her nails would make her palms bleed.


When my friends found me apologizing for talking to another man. I was quickly informed that it wasn’t okay.


With my ex it was one night we went out and she got drunk then started cursing me out loudly in public for basically not drinking as much as she did calling me pussy among other things. When I tried to calm her down she proceeded to hit me with an umbrella so yeah.


The realization was painful and gradual, mostly owing to his inability to have reasonable discussions, refusal to respect my perspective, and nonstop grudge-holding, but the last straw for me was when he broke one of my possessions (thankfully something small/cheap) in a fit of rage. I knew I couldn’t spend the rest of my life with someone like that. Left soon after.


When I was the one making all the decisions and when I felt jealous of my friends that were either single or happy in their relationships.


Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of