What It’s Like To Cut A Family Member Out of Your Life

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When a relationship is toxic, you need to cut that person out of your life for good. That means family members, as well as friends and significant others.

Yes, cutting out family members is more difficult. You’re raised to believe that family comes first, and that they are the most important thing in the world. And in many cases, they are. But if there is a family member that treats you like sh*t and only makes your life worse, than you have no choice but to cut them out.

And that’s exactly what many people do. They cut toxic people out of their lives. Sure, it sounds difficult, and it’s probably one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. But one thing all these people have in common? None of them regret the decision to rid that toxic person from their lives. Their lives are better without that person dragging them down.

This is what it’s like to cut a family member out of your life:


Your mourn the family you wish you had, and the family that yours pretended it was. You mourn the difference. You mourn your loss. And then you let go.


I cut my father out of my life. There are times when I feel nothing but happiness since I like to live my life drama free. Then there are times when I have severe anxiety about it. During those times I just have to remind myself that I lived through years of him controlling and abusing me and he will never change no matter how many chances I gave him. So I go over all the reasons to not have him in my life. Then I repeat to myself “I can’t control the actions of other people I can only control myself.”


It hurts, but imagine the constant pain and suffering that you might feel if you let them stay in your life.



Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of