19 People Describe What It’s Like To Have Sex With Someone That Is Transitioning

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Change can be weird. There are things that take some getting used to, and some changes just come more naturally. Sex is one of those things that is up in the air.

Changes from new condoms to new sex toys can be a bit of a shock for some people. Seriously, some people really like their routine. So imagine what it’d be like having sex one way for your whole sexual life, and then everything changing.

That is what it’s like for people that have gone through sex changes or are transitioning. Although they are doing what they want, and finally becoming who they are mean’t to be, the adjustment period can be hard, and it takes time to get used to their new body. But, once the change is complete, things take a turn for the better.

Sex during or post a transitional period is an experience many people seem confused by. Some people just want to know how sex is different once you change into the opposite sex. The following 19 people have had sex with someone that has transitioned or is transitioning. Whether they have transitioned themselves, or are just partners of someone that has, these people share their experiences.

These 19 people what sex is like with someone that is or has transitioned:


I am a bi guy. I hooked up with a MtF. She had had a lot of surgery, including a neo vagina. I met her at a fetish club. She was hot, and she didn’t pass. There’s something that turns me on about non-passing MtF’s, it’s hard to explain. But the point is: I din’t expect her to pass, and she wsn’t trying to fool me. The neo vagina didn’t pass either, but it sure did feel good. I would be down to do it again. The only issue was, she had pubic hair growing inside of her vagina. Thick, course ones. I asked her about it, and it has something to do with the neo vagina being constructed from testicle skin. There are pictures of this online. Anyway, I could feel the hair through the condom even, and I was worried about these vaginal pubic hairs causing condom breakage.


I had a year+ relationship with a MtF post-op. We met about 4 years after she had surgery. All that to say that she had slim hips, a slim bone structure, pretty much nothing pointed to “born male appears female”. Her vagina looked like a vagina. There’s enough variety in the world that I didn’t inspect it vigorously to determine how it came about. She had some small breasts that weren’t implants. Basically, I didn’t know. Sex was great. We needed lube, but the only uncommon thing about that for me in many cases is that we needed it right at the start instead of first sometime in the middle. It was tight, it was soft, it was warm, it was very wet (because we used lube!), & it was sex with someone I was already mentally in love with.


My boyfriend is Ftm. The sex was good before his transition and even during the first steps of the transition. But now it’s very one sided, I give a lot and receive very little. He was and is still very horny all the time. Besides that however, everything is the same. He’s saving for top surgery and has not considered bottom surgery due to lack of good surgeons and lack of money. It wouldn’t bother me if he did decide to get it though.


I’m MtF & he’s FtM. Most of it is about as different as sex is with any other partner. He smells like a man, I smell like a woman. My skin is soft & his is hairy. His dick is about the size of a pinky finger from the second knuckle. I can give him head just like any other guy, and he love it. His fluids taste like cum and his parts all have a man’s smell & they’re all covered in hair. I particularly enjoy having things put in my inguinal canal. It’s called muffing, and it feels really nice. It hits all of the important nerves & has enough space to fit a thumb. If you have testicles and aren’t on HRT, your testicles might get in the way. So yeah, it’s pretty normal, just a little different, & the pillow talk is way more interesting.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of