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19 People Describe What It’s Like To Have Sex With Someone That Is Transitioning

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My ex is a pre bottom surgery trans man. He has been on hormones for 8 years so his growth down there was pretty developed. We were able to have penetrative sex (I’m a woman, btw). Apart from the physical side, the emotional side can be pretty intense. A lot of pre surgery trans people have issues around dysphoria during sex, and this stopped sex dead in its tracks a few times for us. He did not like being penetrated at all, which I didn’t realise at first because he was too shy to tell me. That was a bit awkward, and it made me feel like shit afterward. Overall, even though he had female genitals, it was pretty much just like being with a cis guy physically. 10/10, would sleep with a trans dude again.

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I’m a guy. This was at a sex club. I walked in on her (m2f) sitting on a bed. So she was horny, I was horny, & we got it on immediately. The room was dark, & she had kind of a strong chin, but I didn’t really think about it. She was on top, & held my arms down. I thought, “Man, she’s strong.” But the vagina felt great. Naturally lubricated, better than those of some natural women I’ve been inside. However, the surgical scar from the vulva up was a distraction, as was the unusual hip-to-waist ratio. My experience is probably unusual in that I had sex with her while getting acquainted. I might repeat if I knew what to expect going in.

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My partner & I are both trans (f2m). Neither of us have bottom surgery yet. Hormones still do a lot to the clitoris. The thing that surprised us both was how quickly our clits grew. My partner’s does not stay tucked up in the skin anymore, & it freely hangs down a bit. I can actually give them head – like giving a blowjob to a very tiny penis. Other than that, body smells are now a thing. Even after having a shower just that day, the body smells a lot different now. & everything is very hairy. We’re both about 8 months into hormones right now, so I’m sure we still have a long way to go as far as changes go. In comparison to a cis dude – The dick is just much smaller. Also, we both went from being horny and wanting something inside of us to wanting to grind on things instead.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.