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These People Don’t Have A Problem Taking Back A Cheater

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Never been cheated on, but I am a lawyer who’s done a fair number of divorces. The cheater’s age is a huge factor. If you’re 18-29, and he or she is already running around on you, fuck that noise. It’s a symptom of a deeper problem, and just the first of many many ways that you are going to get hurt in the relationship. If you’re 30-45, eh, maybe it’s worth it to stay in the relationship. YMMV. If you’re 45 plus, and you still love each other, and you’ve built a life together that you otherwise really like, but the sex has gotten boring or infrequent, then take a good hard look at forgiveness.

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My husband cheated on me and I forgave him. I later found out that he had cheated at our wedding reception and while I was giving birth to his son! I divorced him. My advice is once a cheater, always a cheater.

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Girlfriend of almost a year cheated on me, I found out through friends telling me about it. I forgave her and she cheated on me with the same guy a week later after begging me to stay. Left her after all her lies over that entire year caught up with her, ended up finding out she cheated on me with 2 other guys prior to that. Found out she was talking about me behind my back and making fun of me to the guys she’d cheated on me with constantly. Led to me being unable to confide in others and I have a constant lingering fear with cheaters in relationships because of this person.

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I gave him a second chance, but it was never the same. The trust was gone. Surprisingly, he began to treat me as if I had cheated. Worried when I went out with girlfriends, texting frequently when we were apart and becoming upset when I didn’t answer right away, and constantly asking questions about my male friends. It was like cheating woke him to the possibility that I could do it, too. Needless to say, we broke up a few years later. I wish it had been sooner.

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Forgave them because they admitted it was a mistake. Totally regret it now. Once a cheater always a cheater. After breaking up I found out in the 4 year relationship he cheated with 5 people (that I know off) including my close friend and another family friend. Yes he knew they both were known to me.
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Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.