These People Don’t Have A Problem Taking Back A Cheater


Forgave him a year ago. It was a drunk kiss in a faraway country. He called me immediately, told me everything and stepped on the plane home an hour later. The next day we talked, talked, and talked and eventually seeing his regret I decided to forgive him. Obviously it hurt our relationship (I couldn’t trust him anymore the way I did) but in some crazy way it also made us stronger. It made us see what we almost lost and showed the value of our relationship. Today we are stronger than ever, but obviously still working through what happened. I’m glad I forgave him and that I therefore gave him a chance to make everything right: which he did. We all make mistakes; it matters how we deal with them.


I forgave my SO after she cheated on me while out drinking. No sex, but it doesn’t have to be sex to be cheating, right? I gave her a second chance because she communicated with me. She told me everything she could remember the next morning, and was crying and remorseful. But above all else, I laid down what I would need to be able to trust her again. I told her I needed her to stop going out and getting drunk like that, especially with the people she was with because they encouraged it. I didn’t give her an ultimatum, I even said if she still wanted to drink I’d happily go out with her and be her DD and her moral compass, considering none of her drinking ‘friends’ would be. She stopped going out drinking, and while it hasn’t been all sunshine and roses since then, things are okay, and I trust her implicitly.


I forgave him because if he hadn’t told me there would have been absolutely no way I would have found out and he was crushed by what he had done. It’s been over 3 years since this happened. Trust just takes time. Open communication and time. Our relationship is sensational now. Been together nearly 5 years, have a gorgeous doggo and if all goes according to plan I’ll be lucky enough to marry him. It is possible to recover from cheating. It takes work, patience, communication and most importantly a strong WANT from both parties to make it through.


I forgave her after I dumped her because she sent me pictures of fresh cut marks on her inner thigh. I thought she’d kill herself because I was young and naive. We were together for 1.5 years after. The trust never fully recovered. I never truly forgave her, and I always resented her for doing that to me. I was never happy with her after that


Currently still together I was new to the area, she was the only one I really knew. A month into dating she cheated on me with her ex. I was too scared to be alone again to just push her away. That was a year ago. Still have constant thoughts of how much I was hurt and all the residual feelings (most of them kind of fucked up), always paranoid about where she is or who she’s talking to. It’s put me into such a depressive state.

Written by Laura McNairy

Laura is a freelance writer for TFLN. She likes to write about what she knows best — dating, sex, and being awkward, but usually in the opposite order. She is the Assistant Editor and videographer for Peach Fuzz, a sex-positive nudie magazine in ATX.