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People Share What It’s Really Like to Date Long Distance

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Relationships are hard but you know what's even harder? Long distance relationships. You're already trying to cope with the fact that someone likes you enough to want to spend time with you but now you're throwing long distance into the mix? No thank you.

I've sworn off long distance dating from now on. I was in a relationship of four years that was mostly long distance and it was probably the sh*ttiest relationship I've ever been in. Granted, the guy ended up being a total d*ckhead and wasn't good for me (I learned all of this in retrospect, of course) and I broke it off after I realized I didn't want to move to another city to be with him. Boy, bye.

BUT (yes, there's a huge but here) I still didn't learn my lesson from that and almost a year later, got involved with another d*ckhead that lives in New York. We did out thing for a year and a half before I came to my senses. Basically, I need to break the pattern of dating a**holes that don't live in the same city as I do before I can move forward in the dating world but we'll see how far that goes. That's just my experience with sh*tty men and long distance dating. So, kudos to those that have done long distance relationships and it worked out for them. More power to you, all the love and light, and all that jazz.

These people share the honest experiences with long distance dating:

1.

I met this girl online in 2002. We were 8 time zones apart and from an entirely different culture/background. For four years we lived separated, meeting only about one week every year, until we could finally move together. We are going to celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary in a few months and we are inseparable now.

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A couple of years ago I started dating a girl at the end of summer, a week before she moved back to school. We decided to give the distance thing a try. We dated for the next semester, but at the end of the next break we kind of decided that the distance thing wasn't worth the trouble, and didn't work with our insanely busy lives. It was a really good relationship, definitely in my top 3 of all time thus far. So, distance can work, but you really have to work at it.

3.

My sister was in a distance relationship for 6 years, so it can be done.

4.

I've been dating my girlfriend for years now. I live in England, she lives in Japan. There is no substitute for the feeling we get when we see each other at the airport for the first time in months (we meet a few times a year). The cost of the flights is far outweighed by the joy of spending time together.

Written by Irvi Torremoro

Irvi Torremoro is an Austinite by way of Las Vegas. She's worked in various outlets in food & beverage and is now focused on writing, eating all the things, talking about Beyonce, and petting all the puppies. She runs flavorandbounty.com, a lifestyle blog about people in the service industry.