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What It’s Like Being With Someone With An Opposite Sex Drive

5.

I end up ‘settling’ for HJs quite often, but that tides me over and honestly keeps me really happy especially given I know she’s doing it to make me happy / cause she cares. And then I make sure I more than pay her back when I catch her in a situation where she is ‘in the mood’. On top of that, the fact we’re open about things means I don’t feel anymore (I did when things first sort of slowed down) like she’s not interested (in it or me) or that I’m doing something wrong. Communication!

6.

I was passive-aggressive about it for a while, direct with it for a while, but the biggest thing that actually helped was translating what I was feeling (frustration, rejection, etc.) into something that made sense for her and how I know she doesn’t mean to “reject” me, but that’s how it feels.

7.

I don’t wait for him to start. I take control and once I do that, he realizes he’s pretty damn horny too and then we rock out.

Written by Alex Cogen

Alex is a New Yorker currently living in Austin. She loves cats, grass, and latex but unfortunately is allergic to all 3. She makes mom and dad jokes more than she cares to admit (jk she'll admit it loud and proud). She isn't as funny as she thinks she is. She is the founder of thelazygurl.com.