21 Ladies Admit They’ve Been Friend Zoned and It Sucks


Growing up my whole life I was just one of the guys. I've pretty much had a crush on every one of my guy friends growing up, never had the feelings returned. It blows and it crushed my self confidence. Took a long time to realize I am not, in fact, ugly. They just didn't see me that way…


I met a guy, we became friends, and I started to like him. A few months later, he started dating my friend. After they broke up, he told me he liked me, and I told him I liked him too, but we never dated. He randomly stopped talking to me after a while and about a year later, he did the same thing. We didn't talk for a while after that. Then, a few months ago, the same thing was happening again, but I grew some balls this time and told him first. His response was something along the lines of, “I think I like you too, but I don't know. It's complicated but I don't know why it's complicated.” I kind of what-the-f*ck'd it and stopped talking to him for a while. I had a weak moment today and texted him. He has another girlfriend.


I had this friend in high school who was so cute… tall, dark hair, played guitar. We'd chat for hours on AIM and he'd tell me things that he “could never tell anyone else.” I made this huge effort to give him a really meaningful birthday gift and make it clear (to the best of my ability at 15) that I like-liked him… and then he had me help him ask another one of our classmates out on a date because I was the only friend he could trust to do it.


I was the queen of friend zone. Middle school- I had feelings for my best guy friend. He started dating my best girl friend. High school- I had feelings for another great guy friend. He dated this ditzy girl and would always complain about her to me. Later high school- Met a guy on a summer program. We spent every day together and flirted a ton but I didn't know why it wasn't going anywhere. Finally I confessed my feelings for him, and he told me he had a girlfriend back home, who he obviously hid from me.

Written by Irvi Torremoro

Irvi Torremoro is an Austinite by way of Las Vegas. She's worked in various outlets in food & beverage and is now focused on writing, eating all the things, talking about Beyonce, and petting all the puppies. She runs flavorandbounty.com, a lifestyle blog about people in the service industry.