In society, there’s an unspoken norm that in relationships it’s women who need emotional support and encouragement, not men. Often, people believe women are the ones who need to be complimented, loved, surprised, and nurtured–and men just get by on their own, happy to just be there.
We don’t ever hear of women surprising their man with flowers, rubbing their back/playing with their hair, or complimenting them out of the blue. Instead, we play into the norm of “toxic masculinity” that men don’t need these things–they shouldn’t want them, either. But, in reality, it’s the furthest thing from the truth.
One Tumblr user posted the question to the social network over why it’s a “normal thing” to believe men don’t want that mushy romantic sh*t–and, many women chimed in saying that in reality, they do. If you’re in a relationship with a guy who may seem tough on the outside, try giving him a compliment when they least expect it, send them flowers just to say you love them, send them little texts/notes throughout the day to show them you care–then, see how much it means to them.